A funny, frank and genuinely helpful book about female friendship by the two women behind the hugely successful podcast CALL YOUR GIRLFRIEND - and the term 'shine theory'.
From the hosts of hit podcast CALL YOUR GIRLFRIEND comes the bible on how to keep each other close.
You meet - and there's a spark. You want to know everything about each other. You spill your secrets, you spend all weekend together, you go on holiday. You fight, and it's gut-wrenching. You see each other through the worst times and the best. You know each other better than parents, siblings, lovers. You stay in touch when miles apart. You will always be there.
This is the most important relationship of your life. This is your Big Friendship.
A close, fulfilling friendship is the key to happiness - everyone from Greek philosophers to Instagram influencers will agree. But for all that, we don't talk enough about what it takes to nurture friendships for the long haul.
Telling the story of their own ten-year, complex, loving friendship, Aminatou and Ann share their hard-won wisdom with honesty, hilarity and compassion. They've weathered life-threatening health scares, long-distance living, racial tension, emergency counselling and one unfortunate Thanksgiving dinner eaten in a parking lot. And they know: the most important part of a Big Friendship is making the investment in each other.
This is a bible to treasure and a gift to bestow - an inspiring and entertaining testament to the power of society's most underappreciated relationship, showing how it can survive anything and become a life-affirming bond.
In a culture that primarily values romantic or familial relationships, Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close is a necessary corrective. Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman offer a deeply compelling book that is part clear-eyed and poignant memoir of a big, invaluable friendship and part frank manifesto on how to nurture the important friendships in our lives in good times and bad. In each chapter, Sow and Friedman demonstrate how they navigate the nuances of their long-standing friendship with elegance, warmth, and generosity. This is the kind of book that makes you want to reach out to your best, biggest friends to say thank you, thank you, thank you for walking in this world with me. As with your big friendships, this unforgettable book is one you will want to keep close. - Roxane Gay, author of Bad Feminist
Big Friendship is a loving, thoughtful and extremely frank examination of the rich and rocky terrain of women's friendships. It takes as its subject the committed social bonds that sustain and frustrate us as much (or more!) as any of the sexual and familial ties that we've been trained to take more seriously. Here, friendship gets the emotional and intellectual respect it deserves; and like any truly great love story, Ann's and Amina's is a page turner. I love this book. - Rebecca Traister, author of Good and Mad and All the Single Ladies
At its heart, this book is about the power of friendship. In a wonderful and intimate portrayal, Big Friendship shines a light on how being a friend can be just as eye-opening, challenging, and joyful as being a parent or a partner -- and how it can make you your best self. Aminatou and Ann's story is as universal as it is revolutionary. - Hillary Rodham Clinton
Love can be passionate-transformative, painful, enlivening, bone-deep-without being erotic. In this openhearted book, Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman show us how a friendship can be as rewarding and enduring as a marriage, and they urge us to value it accordingly-as they clearly do. These women we love to listen to give us the gift of a look inside their intimacy, with all its challenges, and it is an inspiration. - Ariel Levy, author of The Rules Do Not Apply