In her compulsively readable new book, psychologist Esther Perel provides the insight we so desperately need to help us move beyond a simplistic discussion of infidelity.
There is one simple act of transgression that can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity: an affair. Yet this extremely common act is poorly understood... In her new book Esther Perel provides the insight we so desperately need to help us understand why we have affairs, and what they really mean. Perel does not take cheating lightly, rather her practice (where she exclusively sees patients dealing with infidelity) has taught her just how much pain this act can cause and, as a result, just how inadequate is our current conversation.
In THE STATE OF AFFAIRS, Perel pushes us to engage in a more nuanced and less judgmental conversation about infidelity and all the issues that come along with it. From understanding why the affair happened, to making your relationship stronger and more resilient, to how to prevent this in the first place, THE STATE OF AFFAIRS provides the framework we need to understand ourselves and our relationships through our transgressions.
'Hello, I'm Esther... I imagine a world where we experience a sense of aliveness and vitality in our relationships, because the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives. I've dedicated my life and career to understanding and improving human relationships. Let's continue to learn together.'
Psychotherapist Esther Perel is recognised as one of the most insightful and original voices on modern love. She has changed the conversation on what it means to be in love and have a fulfilling sex life.. For the past ten years, she has worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she argues, but healing is possible. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage - with the same person. With the right approach, couples can learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Weaving real-life stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis, Perel invites readers into a truly revealing exploration of modern marriage. She coaches, consults and speaks regularly on erotic intelligence, trauma, sexual honesty and conflict resolution. She is the bestselling author of Mating in Captivity and her TED Talk has reached 6.5 million views online.