Coping with the loss of your baby - shared Australian stories of courage and hope.
SMALL MIRACLES is a landmark Australian self-help book offering practical counselling and inspiring consolation for anyone coping with the loss of a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth or prematurity and related issues such as infertility. Based on the grief counselling and support services offered by the Bonnie Babes Foundation for over 15 years, SMALL MIRACLES contains the very moving stories of Australians (including author Rachel Stanfield-Porter), who have experienced the traumatic loss of a baby and how they coped with this very private tragedy, rebuilt their lives and restored their hopes.
We have a word, orphan, to describe someone who has lost their parents; but there s no word for parents who have lost their child. There is only grief. It is an unnamed, unspoken tragedy that touches all families in some way. The fact is that one in every four Australian pregnancies ends in a loss. The human reality of this shocking statistic, is that 70,000 babies die every year. Even more perplexing is the fact that this figure hasn t changed in Australia for the last 60 years.
Advances in medical technology to significantly reduce this figure are as much of a priority as the need to address our collective emotional response to the loss of a baby. It is still not talked about much, or enough, even among friends and family. The loss of a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth and prematurity is a subject so often swept under the carpet in that reserved, stoic way that we have. Each person reacts differently. Men try to get on with things like work, and women hold their feelings deep and close. Sometimes it s the other way around. Friends don t know what to say, or how to react.
The line between immense heartbreak and the greatest possible joy is so thin. What do you say and how do you, and your family, remember, cope and recover and find the courage to try again for another baby or accept it is not to be. These untold stories of the parents and little Aussie babies that do survive traumatic pregnancies and prematurity the real small miracles provide the most wonderful tales of love and purpose imaginable.
Here are some of those Small Miracles compelling, uplifting, sad and intensely human. Best of all, they are stories of healing and hope.
Rachel Stanfield-Porter has known both the grief and the joy of starting a family she has had four children. Sadly though, she lost her first two boys to still birth and miscarriage. Struck by the fragility of life, and galvanised by her previous tragedies and the lack of support available, she founded the Bonnie Babes Foundation. Her mission was to help other families struggling with the emotional pain she and her husband had experienced and to reduce the number of babies that die each year. Fifteen years later the organisation has been overwhelmingly successful in reaching out to the 50,000 Australian families each year who experience the traumatic loss of a baby and providing vital equipment to hospitals to help save the lives of newborns. The Bonnie Babes Foundation is now Australia's leading grief counselling service that Australian women and families turn to after the loss of a baby.