If you feel trapped, suffocated and oppressed by the weight of others' expectations, this book will help you to break free and live life on your terms. A fresh twist on assertiveness.
Many people's lives, relationships, careers and wellbeing are blighted by the belief that to be liked, loved and accepted they have to limit themselves to the behaviours they believe are approved of by others. This might mean some or all of the following: always being polite, nice, helpful, charming, fun, making people feel good about themselves, not letting people down, never saying 'no', avoiding conflict and putting others' needs before their own.
In her 15 years of clinical experience as a psychologist Jacqui Marson has coined the phrase 'the curse of lovely' to describe this growing trend. Many people would like to be known as lovely, but for a growing number of people it can feel like a curse. They feel unable to put their own needs before those of everyone else, and feel that changing this is not an option. This highly practical and motivational book will show readers how to break curse of lovely to live a more complete, fulfilling life.
Contents include: when 'lovely' turns into a curse; the lovely child - how it all begins; the different shades of lovely - which one are you ; from curse to gift - how we can still be lovable and get our needs met; but what do I want - how to tune in to what your body is telling you; re-evaluating anger; saying 'no' and surviving; how to instigate scary conversations; and how to replace the personal rules that put you at the bottom on the pile.
Jacqui Marson is a chartered counselling psychologist. She has worked in a variety of clinical settings in London, including Holloway Prison and St Thomas' Hospital, and currently has a successful private practice in Covent Garden. She regularly appears on BBC and commercial radio and television programmes, including Channel Five News. She has also written for The Psychologist, The Counselling Psychology Review and Psychologies magazine.