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I Only Say This Because I Love You

Deborah Tannen

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Prose: non-fiction, Psychology

*Wonderful new look for the paperback.

*Uses real conversations to shed light on how families communicate (or not!) with each other.

Why does talk in families so often go in circles, leaving us tied up in knots Linguist Deborah Tannen reveals why talk among adult family members so often leads to arguments and hurt feelings. Learn to separate the word meaning, or 'message' from the heart meaning, or 'metamessage' - the unstated but powerful meaning that comes from the history of our relationships in the family, where our hopes for being understood and our experience of criticism can painfully meet. Using real conversations from the lives of real people, Tannen shows us how talk in a family is a high-wire act as we balance connection and power, struggling to get close without giving up our freedom. By helping us understand what conversations in the family really mean, she shows how to improve relationships with family members throughout our lives.

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Praise for I Only Say This Because I Love You

  • Presenting real conversations from people's lives, Tannen reveals what is actually going on in family talk. - IRISH EXAMINER

  • This book is full of clarity and common sense which is what you need for the minefield of emotionally charged familial situations. - IRISH EXAMINER

  • This powerful book will be of use to anyone who has ever struggled within a family relationship. - GOOD BOOK GUIDE

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Deborah Tannen

Deborah Tannen is the acclaimed author of You Just Don't Understand, which was on the New York Times bestseller list for nearly four years including eight months as number 1; You're Wearing THAT?: Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation; I Only Say This Because I Love You: Talking to Your Parents, Partner and That's Not What I Meant! A professor of linguistics at Georgetown University, she has written for and been featured in newspapers and magazines such as the New York Times, Washington Post, USA Today, Time and Newsweek. She lives with her husband in the Washington, DC area.

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