You're Wearing That?: Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation

Why do daughters complain that their mothers always criticize, while mothers feel hurt that their daughters shut them out In her most provocative and engaging book to date, Deborah Tannen takes on the often complex, fraught and passionate mother-daughter relationship

Deborah Tannen's No. 1 New York Times bestseller You Just Don't Understand revolutionized communication between women and men. Mothers and daughters often misunderstand each other as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence. They both want to be seen for who they really are, but tend to see the other as failing short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other's power and underestimates her own. Deborah Tannen examines every aspect of this complex dynamic, from the dark side that can shadow a woman throughout her life, to the new technologies like e-mail and Instant Messaging that are transforming mother-daughter communication.

With groundbreaking insights, pitch-perfect dialogues, and deeply moving memories of her own mother, Tannen untangles the knots daughters and mothers can get tied up in. Eye-opening and heart-felt, You're Wearing THAT illuminates and enriches one of the most important relationships in our lives.