"I shouldn't have to tell him that again!&rdquo "She is just so spoiled.&rdquo "They don't appreciate anything I do for them.&rdquo Do you feel like you're at the end of your rope? Are you exhausted by your kids arguing over every little thing? Finally there's a name for your feelings:"Parent Frustration Syndrome&rdquo (PFS). No kid is perfect, but parents often don't realize just how much their own thoughts, rather than their children's behaviour, contribute to being emotionally overwhelmed and discouraged. In Liking the Child You Love , Renowned psychologist Dr. Jeffrey Bernstein offers proven strategies for taming the 9 most common toxic thought patterns that stop us from parenting effectively: ? The"Always or Never&rdquo Trap ? Label Gluing ? Seething Sarcasm ? Smouldering Suspicions ? Detrimental Denial ? Emotional Overheating ? Blame Blasting ? "Should&rdquo Slamming ? Dooming Conclusions As you identify and put a stop to PFS's negative thought patterns, you'll be amazed at how your kids' defiant behaviour quickly improves, without having to raise your voice or dole out harsh punishments. Soon you will have a closer, calmer, and more loving relationship with your kids- just by changing your own mindset.