The scientifically-proven method for understanding emotions and using them in a way that will help our children - and ourselves - thrive
The mental wellbeing of children and adults is shockingly poor. Marc Brackett, author of PERMISSION TO FEEL, knows why. And he knows what we can do.
Marc Brackett is a professor in Yale University's Child Study Center and founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. In his 25 years as an emotion scientist, he has developed a remarkably effective plan to improve the lives of children and adults - a blueprint for understanding our emotions and using them wisely so that they help, rather than hinder, our success and well-being. The core of his approach is a legacy from his childhood, from an astute uncle who gave him permission to feel. He was the first adult who managed to see Marc, listen to him, and recognize the suffering, bullying, and abuse he'd endured. And that was the beginning of Marc's awareness that what he was going through was temporary. He wasn't alone, he wasn't stuck on a timeline, and he wasn't "wrong" to feel scared, isolated, and angry. Now, best of all, he could do something about it.
In the decades since, Marc has led large research teams and raised tens of millions of dollars to investigate the roots of emotional well being. His prescription for healthy children (and their parents, teachers, and schools) is a system called RULER, a high-impact and fast-effect approach to understanding and mastering emotions that has already transformed the thousands of schools that have adopted it. RULER has been proven to reduce stress and burnout, improve school climate, and enhance academic achievement. This book is the culmination of Marc's development of RULER and his way to share the strategies and skills with readers around the world. It is tested, and it works.
This book combines rigour, science, passion and inspiration in equal parts. Too many children and adults are suffering; they are ashamed of their feelings and emotionally unskilled, but they don't have to be. Marc Brackett's life mission is to reverse this course, and this book can show you how.
A compelling and complete journey that delivers on its promise of giving us permission to feel. Marc Brackett shows us that emotional intelligence is not a gift but a skill--one that we can all learn, and benefit from immensely. - Angela Duckworth, Author of Grit
Permission to Feel is a deeply insightful and compelling examination of one of the most important but ignored dimensions of the human experience. In his honest, funny, and illuminating way, Marc Brackett helps us to understand how emotions influence our health, performance, and overall well-being, and how we can leverage their power to transform our lives. - Vivek Murthy, MD, MBA. 19th Surgeon General of the United States
There is a dire need for children and adults alike to cultivate emotion skills. Permission to Feel provides a framework for what parents and educators need to learn in order to support children in achieving social, academic, and life success. - Carmen Farina, Chancellor Emeritus, New York City Department of Education
Brackett (Creating Emotionally Literate Classrooms), founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and a professor at the Yale Child Study Center, examines how acknowledging one's emotions can create confidence and promote mental health in this provocative, accessible work. While Brackett focuses on educational and child-based applications for his methods, his wise principles can easily be applied to adult situations as well. Readers looking for strategies for responding to stress, particularly in children, will find much guidance in this cogent, welcoming work. - Publisher's Weekly
In business, we are often pressured to withhold or suppress emotions, ultimately creating toxic environments and interpersonal conflict. In Permission to Feel, Marc Brackett teaches essential skills and tools for bringing our best selves forward. The results? Enhanced personal and professional outcomes, and healthier and more engaging workplaces. A must-read for every entrepreneur - and their investors. - Deborah Quazzo, Managing Partner GSV AcceleraTE Fund
We often create a false dichotomy between thinking and feeling. In this dichotomy, thinking is important, strong, and adaptive, but feeling is not. Marc Brackett shows us how emotions-and our ability to feel, understand, and use them-are key to fulfilling our potential. - Carol Dweck, author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success and Professor of Psychology, Stanford University
Permission to Feel provides a framework for what parents and educators need to learn in order to support children in achieving social, academic, and life success. - Carmen Farina, New York City Department of Education
Marc Brackett is a Professor in the Child Study Center and founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence at Yale University. He is the lead developer of RULER, an evidence-based approach to social and emotional learning that has been adopted by over 2,000 schools throughout the US, and across the globe, including the UK. he has published numerous scholarly articles and is the co-creator of the Mood Meter App. He also holds a black belt in Hapkido, a Korean martial art.