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A scandalous woman. A force of nature. Who was the real Lady Chatterley? Author of FRIEDA, Annabel Abbs, sheds some light.

Frieda Lawrence was born as Baroness Emma Maria Frieda Johanna von Richthofen in Germany and died as Frieda Ravagli in New Mexico.  In between she became first Mrs Frieda Weekley and then Mrs Frieda Lawrence, after her marriages first to Professor Ernest Weekley and then to the writer and son-of-a-coal-miner, D.H. Lawrence. Complicated? It gets worse.
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Despite growing up in occupied France, she was German.  As Mrs Ernest Weekley her adopted home became the comfortable suburbs of industrial Nottingham in England.  As Mrs Lawrence she lived a peripatetic life which included stints in Germany, England, Italy, Australia, France and New Mexico.  Finally, as Mrs Ravagli (and the wife of an Italian army captain) she lived out her years in Taos, New Mexico, where she chose to be buried.

But Frieda is probably best known as the fictional characters she inspired. Lawrence routinely took chunks of Frieda – her predicament, her appearance, her character, her aspirations – and spun characters as compelling as Ursula in Women in Love or as notorious as Connie Chatterley in Lady Chatterley’s Lover.  Today it is the character of Connie Chatterley from his most controversial and provocative book, Lady Chatterley’s Lover, that’s most familiar. Unsurprising, given the novel has been made repeatedly into hundreds of films and plays.

It is Lady Chatterley’s predicament rather than her character that Lawrence explores in his novel.  Like Frieda, Connie Chatterley is aristocratic but chooses to leave a comfortable marriage for a poor game-keeper with whom she has an intensely physical and complex union. Lady Chatterley’s Lover was Lawrence’s last book, written in Italy as he was dying from TB. He wrote it in a great rush of creative fervour, as if he knew how little time he had left.  He was determined to try and change the puritanical English attitude to sex and the divisive class system at the heart of English society.  He also wanted to draw attention to the beauty of nature before it was entirely destroyed by humankind, something he’d witnessed growing up among the pits and mines of the English Midlands.

Lady Chatterley's LoverFrieda played a pivotal role in the creation of Lady Chatterley’s Lover.  Not only did her predicament inform the plot, but she read every chapter and every version (he wrote three versions from scratch), acting as his unofficial editor.  She knew the book was too risqué to secure a traditional publisher and yet she never baulked at the inevitable scandal and she never attempted to censor his work. Nor was she concerned about the possible costs of privately printing the novel or battling possible legal obstacles.

Lady Chatterley’s Lover was the first book (other than illicitly-printed pornography) to describe love-making and to use four-letter words. Almost as controversial was the storyline – an aristocratic woman falling in love with a game-keeper.  But Frieda believed whole-heartedly in Lawrence’s genius, and in freedom.  She rallied him constantly, ensuring his doubts weren’t allowed to prevail. His fourth novel, The Rainbow, had been banned in 1916, prompting him to become increasingly bitter about his homeland. But even this didn’t deter Frieda from urging him on. As she says in her memoir, Not I But the Wind, ‘Lawrence asked me: ‘Shall I publish it, or will it only bring me abuse and hatred again?’ I said ‘You have written it, you believe in it, alright, then publish it.’

Ladey Chatterley - Daily MirrorThe novel was instantly banned and censored.  Pirated versions began appearing across the world, for which Lawrence and Frieda earned no money. Not until 1960 did the full unexpurgated version of Lady Chatterley’s Lover become legal, after a trial in which the prosecutor famously asked the jury if they wanted their wives or servants to read such a book.  It was another five years before the novel became legal in Australia.

Neither Lawrence nor Frieda lived to see the legalisation of ‘Our Lady’ as they fondly referred to the novel. Social and cultural historians now attribute the rise of the Swinging Sixties in part to the publication of Lady Chatterley’s Lover.  The dramatically short but high profile prosecution case and the ensuing widespread availability of the novel ushered in a new era of freedom, from which most of us have benefited.

Frieda, I salute you!

  • Frieda - Annabel Abbs

    The moving story of Frieda von Richthofen, wife of D.H. Lawrence - and the real-life inspiration for Lady Chatterley's Lover, a novel banned for more than 30 years Germany, 1907. Frieda, daughter of aristocrat Baron von Richthofen, has rashly married English professor Ernest Weekley. Visiting her family in Munich, a city alive with new ideas of revolution and free love, and goaded by a toxic sibling rivalry with her sisters, Frieda embarks on a passionate affair that is her sensual and intellectual awakening. England, 1912. Trapped in her marriage to Ernest, Frieda meets the penniless but ambitious young writer D.H. Lawrence, a man whose creative energy answers her own needs. Their scandalous affair and tempestuous relationship unleashes a creative outpouring that will change the course of literature - and society - forever. But for Frieda, this fulfilment comes at a terrible personal cost. A stunning novel of emotional intensity, Frieda tells the story of an extraordinary woman - and a notorious love affair that became synonymous with ideas of sexual freedom.

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